Arranged marriage for ‘male’ dummies – Part II
Now that we have worked out the where to talk business, let us get down to the more important issues.
Irrespective of whether the location is her house or a common place ensure that you get enough privacy to talk to each other. By privacy, I mean, both of you should have the confidence that you will not be overheard. It is going to be the first ever conversation between you and your lifepartner, so ensure that it is just between the both of you. Small goof-ups to major blunders become part of folklore later. So, be 100% careful on that.
This reminds me of the scene in “Roja” where Arvindswamy is speaking to Madhoo’s elder sister where she refuses to marry him because she is in love with someone else. They are talking in the backyard of their house while she is mixing coffee and there is a group of old women sitting a few feet away. This group can see them but cannot hear them. And that is a nice situation too. This also tells us that we need not think of a closed space to talk privately, even a far enough space where we can be seen but not heard is also a possibility.
Once you have found yourself a space to speak safely and privately comes up the question of what to talk. If you have a certain checklist with you as to what you need to mention during your conversation it always helps so that you don’t miss out on something important. Before starting I find it convenient as well as it is considered good manners to offer the girl to speak first. If she has something in mind to speak then it is best that you build the conversation on that without really interrupting the flow of the conversation. And please don’t conclude that she is ‘dominating’ if she wishes to start the discussion. But in all probability, no girl will ever begin the discussion. More than their being unsure of what to speak they are interested in seeing what you have up your sleeve! But you would have earned brownie points for making her feel comfortable with the first words you spoke!
Whoever starts the discussion, a few obvious things that you have to know about each other include: family, education and work backgrounds. If there are any important commitments that become binding on the family after marriage then it needs to be atleast informed if not discussed in great detail. And anything else that you consider a must-know before making a decision should be told. It’s better you discuss as openly as possible.
And if this discussion is happening at her home, then please keep the snacks and UK away (UK = Upittu Kesari Bath or JBB (Jamun and Bisi Bele bath according to the comments section of Part I!) and that’s the name of this process in kannada slang!) while discussing if you are in anyway similar to me. I barely listen to the other person while eating. And my replies are generally concerning the dish being relished and that I have realised can put off people who are trying to have a conversation with you! Strange, huh?! Anyway, each person is different and to each his own, dish! ;)
Coming back to the topic, while telling her about yourself please refrain from giving technical details. If you are a BE from IIT, Madras, then let her feel it from the way you treat her. You don’t need to tell her that IIT Madras is among the top 3 engineering institutes in the country. If she doesn’t know she will find out or ask. Don’t bother her with boring details. If you own a Maruti Swift, good, but it is not necessary to tell her anything else but the colour. Once she comes to know that you bought a “Yellow” car it doesn’t really impress her if it is a 1300 cc V2 engine with power steering, central locking and airconditioning. Unless of course, she was your classmate during Mechanical engineering at IIT Madras! If you are a Veterinarian and she thinks that’s a variation of being vegetarian then there is an immediate need for clarification to avoid preparing a perfect case for divorce in the future. In a nutshell, share details wherever necessary.
This talk about family, work and education should, ideally, end within 5 to 10 minutes. Then the actual talk begins. Where you try to know each other as a person – likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests, favourite hangout places, friends, favourite personalities, outdoor activities, books, authors, general outlook about life (a bit philosophical and is to be used only if you are able to handle the subsequent discussion), etc. etc. This part should be the most interactive and lively part of the conversation and this more often than not decides the outcome. If this part of the discussion turns out to be soporific, then forget it. Both of you were either not in the mood to talk to each other or you were absolutely a mismatch in the first place. So, try giving it another chance and maybe say you would like to speak some other day again. I know that will be frowned upon but later you will also be understood. There is no compulsion in this world that you need to decide within half an hour of seeing each other. You can take as much time as you want, so be cool and take your time.
Now comes the actual question of how to decide. There is no golden rule for this. If I had one I would be God. People entering this situation with a list of specifications can easily see that their list is as useless as a worthless trinket. Once you speak to the person you find that there is so much more to him/ her that you can value than just those things on your list. Some people, I know, went with ‘presentability’ as one of their criteria. I don’t think I need to elaborate on what the catch is with this criterion. If she becomes fat and ugly later on, what then? (Did I hear someone say “Like you adi?!”. I might be fat and ugly now, *Background laughter*, but then I might become thin and handsome in the future too. *Background laughter gets louder*)
One thing you can definitely base your decision is on the flow of discussion. The comfort level that you developed during the discussion – this could be a dicey thing to do considering the possibility of dealing with a introvertish person. For example, I faced this situation and you need gems like me to identify the hidden diamonds! :D Her answers to your so-called difficult questions. I had one when I was looking and that was, “How comfortable are you moving out of [city name]?”. [City name] was defined as the one in which she was staying with her parents since birth. Okay I know that this is not a very dangerous question and can be easily handled and all that. It is the response that will give you an instant pulse of how she will react to unexpected questions.
Some people are experts at reading body language. Right or wrong or whatever it is one of the techniques you apply if you believe your analysis. Similarly there are various other things that people do before taking a decision. Talking to other people who have also seen the girl with you and understand what they know about the girl. Speaking to a few common friends, if any. Trust your intuition. It works. Read this book for further details.
Please do not resort to double-checking what the girl has told. It becomes a comedy of contradictions then. If there is anything you doubt or want a clarification – please call/ visit (another opportunity to see her!) girl or her parents directly and ask. Don’t go about secretly checking up!
This worked for me, so I am suggesting it might work for you too. But there might be cases where the whole thing fails. So be cautious. I am sure you can devise a better strategy than what I did. And whatever you do, please let me know too. All the best!
PS: Thanks s.b. for suggesting the change in the title. I think this makes more sense now! :)
haha nice..both your posts reminded of my marriage..similar scenario but instead of UK, it was bajji and Kesari bhath…which i was not allowed to eat much (konjam mariyadai kamikkanum..thats y)…
hi..have blogrolled you…
Adi… practicality and humor as part of the same post.. your descriptions ring amazingly true… lol
Haa Haa.. Good one! Will keep the tips in mind when required ;)
Really enjoyed the post Adi.. Good flow.. I was getting reminded about our first meet & was smiling at some of the paragraphs.
We never got to speak at our home (parents do not prefer this in some families & if girls offer this then they try to beleive that she is dominant). We actually met in a hotel after 2- 3 days before it was decided at home. We still remmeber that table we chose to sit. I somehow keep pulling his leg asking why did you say like that , this…etc,
Few things need to be very clear, the directions towards the future & your aspirations/beleifs about life should atleast match 40-50% , otherwise don’t prefer. If you have that over confidence that you will adjust with any kind of person, that will be a little too much!
It should not happen that He wants to settle abroad & you think about enjoying your tavarumane trips next city.. He likes partying around & you don’t even know what they are.. etc,
One thing, I have observed.. Guys gets impressed with woman’s brain than beauty & they would prefer a person who would know less about outer world etc.,!
Just a common observation & nothing like rule.
veena:
“Guys gets impressed with woman’s brain than beauty & they would prefer a person who would know less about outer world etc.,!”
your responses are more appropriate to a post on “arranged marriage for female (to be or not to be) mummies”. guys know what impresses guys, what they need to know is what impresses gals! so, please put in some points for the male audience/readership!
mysorean (and others):
i specifically added the phrase “to be or not to be” in parantheses because that can also be a big issue after marriage, no kidding!
- s.b.
Man, after all this, I’d rather continue to be single:) And celibate, if I might add, lest some sneaky devil in here gets naughty ideas!!!
s b, May be we can ask Shark or Shruthi & such veterans to write on that topic.
May be girls need not think so much , they just need to be themselves & you guys will be bold out :-) …..!
No Mummies etc, now…these are tips before even getting married ya ?
you seem to thinking already about your a plus b whole square theory:-)
The new title sounds to be more appropriate ra!
Not quite sure if i will be able to remember these points at the crucial time.
Be ready dude, i might end up calling you at that pt and asking you “i forgot formula #3 , can you repeat me real quick ?” lolllll……
veena:
i was not really joking about the kids part! there are folks (gender no bar!) who are vehement about wanting no kids. now, if for some reason one of them enters into a marriage with another who is bent on having kids (without this issue being hashed out and agreed upon), that marriage is doomed!
vamc:
maybe adi will start a new reality show ‘kaun banega pati’ – one lifeline question per contestant to dial adi for advice :-).
- s.b.
Nice guide there Adi! Maybe you can do more research on this, with case studies and inputs from ‘veterans’ and come up with a solid bestseller book! What say? And let me know if you need help from anyone in the Communication field! ;-)
And here is one more tip based on the feedback I usually get from girls from their day to day interaction with Indian males: Many men tend to avoid eye contact (too shy?). Women find guys who maintain proper eye contact honest and trustworthy ( I guess this is true for anyone, actually)…
Hey Adi, I have a long pending trip to make to mysore and when I do I am planning to make a better panoramic snap than the one I gave you. I will let you know when that happens! :-)
See Adi, Claytonia Vices, echoes my sentiments: “Maybe you can do more research on this, with case studies and inputs from ‘veterans’ and come up with a solid bestseller book!”
What have decided, author-to-be???
Priya:
That bajji and kesari bath is more for the guy than the girl if I am right!
Thanks a lot for the blogroll! :)
Vijay:
Thanks! :)
Chinmay:
Parking (these thoughts in your mind) is at your own risk! :D
Veena:
“Guys gets impressed with woman’s brain than beauty & they would prefer a person who would know less about outer world”
Don’t you think you are contradicting yourself in that statement? If a guy likes the brains in a woman then obviously he cant prefer someone who knows less about the outer world, right? Let me know if I am wrong in my understanding of your statement.
S.b.:
Oh I absolutely agree with you. I know of people who have married because one of their key conditions were met and that was no babies till we become Vice President of XXX Company!!
‘kaun banega pati’ – one lifeline question per contestant to dial adi for advice LOL! Good one! I hope STAR TV is listening! :)
Anand:
Haha..good you clarified about being ‘celibate’. Otherwise the sneaky devil had sneakier ideas! Muhuhahaha! :)
Veena:
It would surely be interesting to know their views on this.
“May be girls need not think so much, they just need to be themselves”
What made you say this? I mean I don’t get the context actually.
VamC:
Anytime dude! You know my number! :D
Claytona Vices:
Solid best-seller..hmmm… Even Anand keeps saying the same thing. Now that there are the two of you, I will need to take this seriously! If I wait for the third one, I might never even get to think about it!LOL!
This eye-contact thing is quite true. Atleast for me it works. And it isn’t gender-specific. People who maintain eye-contact are considered to be more honest and trustworthy – irrespective of gender.
And boy, whenever you can come up with a ‘better panoramic snap’ than that one, I will be more than honoured to accept it! :) Btw, me in Mysore from Sunday to Wednesday. It is our Vivek’s marriage. Unless you have missed his mail to the group you would know.
Anand:
Oh man! I admire your perseverance. But how does one go about writing a book? Where do you begin?
The Outer world here refers to pubs-clubs etc.,
The other question – It was to answer s.b question about what gals prefer to think about themselves in such instances, how does boys needs to understand what is the girls preference etc.,
Jasti confuse aadre biTbiDri.. parvaagilla.!
Veena:
biDi hangAdre I will wait for s.b. to react to that!
SB.. we are waiting for your answer to Veena with bated breath..
Adi, Tumba dinadindha nim blogs od’tha idheeni. Probably this is my 1st comment. Nandhu ondhu chikka prashne “Ishtella buddi upayoga maadiro neevu, maduve yake addri?” :P
vijay/adi/veena:
hey, i wrote a response asking veena to rephrase the question for which she is waiting on my response. don’t know where that response went!
- s.b.
devare ivarigella swalpa buddi kodu. :-)
Hey Adi, you better start writing before someone else does it!!
I don’t know if my comment here is appropriate but anyways here I go: Those who go for arranged marriages are dummies. You interview the girl to ensure you find a compatibile partner. Really? Interviewing, long length talks and hanging out with her will only tell you about her personality, likes/dislikes, differences in opinion, ambitions, desires and how she would face a given situation. You may also talk about kids and when to have them. All this is great but what about sexual compatibility??? Are you going to talk about SEX??? Indian women typically have a low libido and therefore are generally disinterested in sex. (It is not their fault but the sex taboo parent generation + lack of exposure/purposeful avoidance to the real world issues in these matters). How many Indian women are willing to give fellatio and take cunnilingus? What about 69 position? Well doing it missionary is itself a big ordeal. If you are unlucky to get a women who doesn’t know anything or little about sex, the deflowering process will permanently etch a bad impression about sex in her mind forever. My Indian friend who is now a resident of USA, succumbed to arranged marriage and got a partner who is great in everything but sex. She is a Bangalore based BE + MBA and has worked for the top five software/consulting multinationals in Bangalore. Alas! She did not have any idea about sex. She thought there were other ways of conceiving and the SEX as everybody knows was just one perverted way. According to my friend, deflowering her was painful and created a bad impression of sex. My poor friend has to beg repeatedly to get a once a week missionary style sex. My friend was very understanding and got her lot of materials educating her on sex, telling her sex is not just for procreation but a healthy recreation. None of it would help. He even sought medical help and came to know that nothing was wrong. They divorced just after their first anniversary! Last year a lot of my friends got married. Most of them are now approaching their anniversary. I was shocked to know that many of their wives had very little knowledge about sex and were very reluctant to have it often. Fortunately, a good number of them were willing to please their husbands and played along! I don’t know if you will publish this commnent but I just wanted you to know. Feel free to edit/modify and do convey the message to your blog audience.
I sure was missing a lot of valuable advice from the elders here :)
thanks..
Kumar Somesh: You have generalised the whole tribe from one incident.. well if stats/examples are what you are looking for, marriages in US take place after the so-called sexual compatibility is checked (after sleeping around for some time), and YET the divorce rate is high (some say 50 percent, some say 80 perc).. so I can also jump to a similar conclusion that love-marriages are destined to doom..
just because one incident was like that doesnt neccessate something (causation and effect are independent) this is between 2 random diff/similar individuals where zillion factors play..
Corrections: “Those who go for arranged marriages are dummies.” should read as “Those who go for arranged marriages BLINDLY are dummies.” (Sorry for the error! I thought I had typed blindly)
Clarifications: Most of those who go for arranged marriages don’t talk about sex (due to various reasons) but expect everything will be in order after marriage. This simply isn’t true. Sex is a very important part of the marriage and it better be discussed before tying the knot. Please do talk about sex and sexual interests/fantasies.
Pavan: I neither talked about sleeping with the girl before marriage to check sexual compatibility nor did I talk about love marriages. I don’t know what made you compare arranged vs love marriages, relationship in India vs USA and divorce rates.
Observations: Now I know why Aditya has gone with the dummies title. It is for people like Pavan who read things that were never implied.
Hope everything is clear now. Keep up the good work Aditya! I have been reading your blog for a long time but never ventured out to comment as I felt things were just right.
PS: I am from Namma Mysooru!
Somesh:
“Now I know why Aditya has gone with the dummies title. It is for people like Pavan who read things that were never implied.”
If something isnt explicitly said, I am at liberty to guage what your intentions were (unless I personally know you), atleast from the tone of your comments. But thanks for clearing this up.
I jumped into throwing those comparisions to “churn” out unimplied observations based on your comment.
Those who go for arranged marriages BLINDLY are dummies
I presume you are married.. atleast a while back because the scenario for arranged marriage has drastically changed in the recent times.. people (atleast whom I know) talk/interact for close to 6 months before they marry.. that should pretty much cover every conceivable topic from global warming to sexual fantasies.. alvaa?
Indian women typically have a low libido and therefore are generally disinterested in sex. (It is not their fault but the sex taboo parent generation + lack of exposure/purposeful avoidance to the real world issues in these matters)
If you had said that they arent great in the “field” due to the lack of knowledge/exposure, it makes sense but how can that affect their libido? Isnt libido hardwired in the genes? Just because there arent avenues to vent out the sexual build-up doesnt mean they would lose interest in it. . or am I wrong?
Pavan: No hard feelings. It’s truce for now!
I read in an scientific research paper that the libido (aka sex drive) of Asians is less than that of Europeans and Americans. Later, I read a study that over the last decade, the libido of Indian women has reduced considerably (working long hours, late night/night shift, materialistic and monetary pursuits, increase in tobacco and alcohol consumption and so on). I think it is obvious that when the sex drive is reduced the interest in sexual matters is reduced. Lack of knowledge/exposure makes them feel sex is just a procreation tool which men misuse for recreation!
I am not married but I have a lot of cousins and friends who got married (both arranged and love, also long courtship and quick marriage) a year to 3 years back. We grew up together and have benefitted from each others experience and advice. I have learnt a lot from them.
“No hard feelings. It’s truce for now!”
Ofcourse, I am all for a good, peaceful and intellectual discussion.. BTW just remind me to call off the hitman I sent for you ;)
it would be great to get your opinion on the “howto” of going about “the discussion” with the would-be.. because I never got to hear (on this topic) from the ones into an Arr-marr.
Somashekar:
‘vinAshakAle athi buddhi’ anthAralla hange Aytu nanna kathe! :P
nanna henDti E comment odidre..hmm…
S.b.:
So are you saying that Veena should respond now? But she comes up with a very philosophical response down there. Man, sometimes I wish I could understand what happens out here! :)
Veena:
buddhi nange kOda swalpa spl aagi koDakke heLi. nimmdu matte s.b. du conversation artha Ago aSTu iddre sAku! :P
Claytona Vices:
Yes. Here we go!!
Kumar Somesh:
First of all, I don’t moderate the comments out here. This is a place for people to say what they want to as they want to. I ‘edit’ comments only on the request of the commentor. Otherwise we are all here to discuss and fight and whatever else.
Let me first of all say that you have raised a point which would have been valid in a liberal society and not in a society like India. In India, where people see going out with a guy even to college with suspicion, discussing about sex before marriage can only be a big joke! And I am sure you know it too. Discussing sex with a very good female friend (with you have a totally platonic relationship) requires tremendous depth in the relationship to handle such discussions. And there is no way that you can bring this topic up with the girl whom you are not sure whether you are going to marry or not.
And coming to all this stuff about Asians not having “libido” and all that. I don’t know what you are talking about. Of course I can’t speak for the entire tribe of Indian/ Asian women, but I am with Pavan in this regard. “Libido” is person-specific and mood-specific. It cannot be generalised on such a massive scale.
If you are able to understand the psyche of the woman you are dealing with and able to strike the right frequency with her in all other things, then I don’t see why “sex” doesn’t happen the way you want it to happen or rather I would say the best way that it can happen in.
And looking at marriage from the point of view of “sex” alone can get very stifling especially when it is not going great. I agree it is an integral part but not the only part. One cannot divorce a lady with whom one has committed to spend a lifetime because she is not able to satisfy his physical desires. There is so much more to life than just ‘sex’.
Pavan:
Advice..anytime is free in India! :D
Don’t send that hitman to wipe kumar somesh off please. He is from my Mysore!
And coming to whatever you have mentioned, I see what you mean and agree to it too.
Waiting for kumar somesh to respond with another guide on his blog to these intricate things in life!
I read Aditya’s article. I guess he wanted to enlighten people, help them out and also for a few laughs… Am I right?
This whole discussion about “sex”, “libido” of women is surprising!
Kumar Somesh: You must be really really ignorant about women or you just don’t know too many. Most women of today’s generation discuss, enjoy “sex” with their partners. Also, their knowledge is vast and better than a guy’s!
Adithya is very much right when he says that there is so much more to a marriage than “sex” alone!
Don’t generalise marriage, sex, libido…
Please which century do you belong to? “Deflowering a woman”???? Seriously, get a grip on your vocabulary and now a days I see more women “deflowering ” their partners!!!
Adithya’s article was funny and informative, but the comments from Kumar Somesh aren’t…
- PS
Hey enidu.. eneno allegations paapa hudgeer mele. saaku sumniri, idealla tumba personal.. istondu public aagi maathaDidre ashTe, hudgeeru Odi hogtaare… :-)
Aditya, time for part III ree!!
Deflowering andrenu, kivige hoovu idodu ondu slang gottu nanage, aadre ideno gottaglilla.
Yes Adi .
I agree with Veena..PART-3 is the only way to flush off and start afresh.
The comments that i see on this blog looks to be getting deviated far and far away from the main topic
we desperately need PART-3 ra!!!!
-Vamshee
veena:
i still did not get what your original question was (and it is too late to respond anyway, what with more interesting questions being asked and answered), but i do want to juxtapose two of your comments from above! :-)
‘Deflowering andrenu, kivige hoovu idodu ondu slang gottu nanage, aadre ideno gottaglilla.’
‘devare ivarigella swalpa buddi kodu. :-) ‘
… and i rest my case (once i am done rotfl-ing)! ;-)
kumar somesh:
your points might be valid or might not, but i have a counter point. take a poll of all married couples: have them ask their spouse whether their proposal would have been accepted if they had they brought up the ‘la topique taboo’ (pardon my lame attempt at french) during the arrangement phase. i would say less than 5 percent. in other words, your contribution to this discussion would be ‘how not to go in for an arranged marriage’ :-).
- s.b.
PS:
“I guess he wanted to enlighten people, help them out and also for a few laughs… Am I right?”
I don’t know about enlightening and helping, but definitely wanted to have a few laughs about the process of arranged marriage.
“now a days I see more women “deflowering ” their partners!!!”
That was not a very bright thing to say, right?!
“Adithya’s article was funny and informative”
Thank you!
Veena:
Part III enu illve illa kanri. iSTe Agoytu nanna gyAnada muttugaLu.
VamC:
Part-3 ledu ra. I agree with you that we need to start discussing something afresh. Let me write something new.
S.b.:
ROTFL at the juxtaposition! Poor Veena, nimmge hengree idanna artha mADsodu?!
ree bhaTre, aaytu bidi. devaraaNe nanage gottaglilla nimma bhaashe,
chair inda bideera hushaaru!
Adi, New post atleast! if not part 3
It’s been quite some time (early 2004) since I had looked at the libido material. Personal experiences of my circle (around 250 people) then seemed to agree with the research material. No generalization, allegations or offence intended. Your honeymoon may vary!
Yes, my blog is on the way and it is all about Indian women and relationship with them based on real events. I will let you all know once it is live.
“Please which century do you belong to? “Deflowering a woman”????” and “Deflowering andrenu, kivige hoovu idodu ondu slang gottu nanage, aadre ideno gottaglilla.” I don’t know if you are joking about and whether I should be clear about it. I’ll be brief here (my blog will cover it in depth). Deflowering means to deprive of virginity, it is painful for women if their hymen is not broken.
“One cannot divorce a lady with whom one has committed to spend a lifetime because she is not able to satisfy his physical desires” results in frustation, extramarital affairs or worse. That is why it is important you choose your partner who meets your expectations. I for one can’t really put up with such a life. Here is a quote that comes to my mind: Sex is the price men pay for Marriage and Marriage is the price women pay for sex!
Yes, I am looking out for alliances. Arranged alliances by parents hasn’t clicked so far. After I found a girl approved by my parents and then approved by me for meeting my criteria of usual expectations, I started talking to her about my sexual expectations. 90% of them I talked to thought I was a pervert (the girls didn’t tell about our sexual discussions to their parents but told them that I was not their type) and alliances were dropped with silly reasons like horoscope issues, girl wants to further her education and so on. Of the 10% who were comfortable, wanted to know who all I had slept with or if I was a virgin. I had to reject half of them as they were no longer virgins (reason being that I am myself a virgin + I am scared of STDs & AIDS). Hope V doesn’t come back saying: “Isn’t STD a long distance telephone thing?” The remaining were just right. Alas! I lost all of them because their parents found a wealthier guy/US Greencard holder just before we could fix an engagement! Lady luck, what are you up to? After two years of search, my parents feel I am too fussy about pussy and have given up on arranged alliances. Now I am on my own to find my partner.
I know some of my friends (unmarried virgin girls who pass all my expectations) (yes, we have discussed sex openly as friends long before I started to consider them as possible life partners) are just right for me. I now have to cautiously proceed. If my marriage proposal doesn’t click with them, I’ll neither have a wife nor a friend. (I proposed one and she doesn’t want to marry me for reasons that has nothing to do with me. She doesn’t want to continue our friendship as she feels that after my proposal, her mind just can’t accept me as a decent friend with no hidden agenda!)
Currently I am going steady with a colleague of mine and we may hopefully get married soon!
Sex is the price men pay for Marriage and Marriage is the price women pay for sex!
I think it is the other way round.. in evolutionary sense, I mean, or atleast as perceived by society
PS:
“I guess he wanted to enlighten people, help them out and also for a few laughs… Am I right?”
I don’t know about enlightening and helping, but definitely wanted to have a few laughs about the process of arranged marriage.
PS: contd..
“now a days I see more women “deflowering ” their partners!!!”
That was not a very bright thing to say, right?!
“Adithya’s article was funny and informative”
Thank you!
Veena:
Part III enu illve illa kanri. iSTe Agoytu nanna gyAnada muttugaLu.
VamC:
Part-3 ledu ra. I agree with you that we need to start discussing something afresh. Let me write something new.
S.b.:
ROTFL at the juxtaposition! Poor Veena, nimmge hengree idanna artha mADsodu?!
Kumar Somesh:
“results in frustation, extramarital affairs or worse”
I simply don’t agree to that.
en reply maadli antha nodtha ideeni…
Devare nanage swalpa buddi koDappa.! :-(
Cheers for the helpouts! its scaryin the shit of me, i going to meet a girl tomo, have now clue yet wat to ask though i have met a couple of girls and spoken to them with much confidence, but still everytime before this kinda incidence my heart pounce faster than usual and i keep thinkin wat if i ask some bullshit question, Hope not!
letc how it goes, wish me luck ppl.
This is nice one. Arranging Marathi marriages are quite similar. Only thing is instead of calling it as UK.. we call it KP i.e. Kanda Pohe program:)
Veena:
enu heLbeDi biDi. sumne yAke heLi! :)
Am I right:
All the best! Do drop in an tell us how it all went! :)
Yogesh:
Kanda pohe! :) nice name!